Spirits
Weddings are known for their joviality. For better or for worse, much of the time this includes alcohol. A champagne toast, wine with dinner, and sometimes even shots at the bar are usu- Spirits ally part of the celebration. Consider your guest list and your budget and then take some time to determine the style of beverage and/or bar service you will offer your guests.
Alert
Many couples believe that to cut bar costs, they should purchase the alcohol themselves because the prices will be better and unopened bottles can be returned to the store. However, many venues will not allow alcohol to be brought in, some charge corkage fees that negate the savings, and most stores will not accept returns unless you have a prearranged agreement.
The Bar
I know having a cash bar is a no-no. Do I have options for alcohol service? There are options when it comes to serving or not serving alcohol. The following are some ideas that you can use to determine the style of bar service at your event.
Host a soft bar, including nonalcoholic refreshments, beer, and wine.
Host a full open bar for a limited amount of time and then switch to a hosted soft bar.
Serve sparkling wine instead of champagne.
Offer house brands of alcohol rather than premium brands.
Skip the champagne for the toast and let guests toast with what they are already drinking.
If you know your guests are not drinkers or you are having a weekday or morning wedding (when guests usually consume less alcohol), have a consumption bar rather than purchasing the site's bar package.
Ask the wait staff to only refill the guests' glasses when asked, not to top off automatically. Also instruct them to not clear glasses unless they are empty or have been randomly abandoned.
Host an open bar only for the first hour of the reception. This will get things off on the right foot and many brides feel this fulfills their responsibility. This is a popular trend, but strictly speaking it breaks the laws of etiquette.
What is a corkage fee? In some instances when you bring in your own alcohol, the location may charge a convenience fee for opening each bottle. Be aware that a corkage fee may also be subject to the tax and service.
Dos and Don'ts
We're having a luncheon reception. Can we serve alcohol that early? Liquor can be served anytime but should be appropriate to the occasion and time of day. For a luncheon reception, a fully stocked bar is unnecessary; mimosas, champagne, Bloody Marys, or other light drinks would be more appropriate.
Question
Do I have to serve alcohol?
Nowhere does it state that you must serve alcoholic beverages at a wedding. Just because someone expects something doesn't mean it is a necessity. You must simply provide the guests with refreshments, and nonalcoholic beverages are perfectly fine.
If we do not serve alcohol at our wedding, what should we serve to make up for it? Ask the caterer to create a signature nonalcoholic drink, have a juice bar, or serve tropical iced teas and sparkling juices. A gourmet coffee bar always makes the guests happy.
