The wedding reception is most likely the biggest and most expensive party you will ever plan. It is the ultimate celebration of a glorious event in your life. Deciding between an informal cocktail hour or a plated dinner is only part of the story; there is more to the reception than just the meal.

What Happens When

What happens at the reception? A wedding reception has three basic parts to it: cocktail hour, meal service, and dancing. The cocktail hour is the first item of business; guests arrive at the reception site and are greeted with hors d'oeuvres and refreshments, while the couple and wedding party finish up with their photos. At the conclusion of the cocktail hour, the guests are escorted into dinner for the grand entrance, the best man's toast, and the meal service. Once the meal is complete, dancing begins and the party really starts. More than likely there will be formal protocol dancing and then the guests will be invited to join in. The cake is cut and the bouquet and garter are tossed.

The Timeline

What is a typical order of events at a wedding reception? There are many variations in timelines for modern weddings, all dependent upon individual circumstances. The following is a basic outline for the order of events at a reception. (For more information on the specifics of each tradition, see Chapter 14). You can work with your wedding planner, location manager, and musical entertainment to personalize your timeline.

Reception Timeline

Cocktail hour

Guests seated

Grand entrance

Welcome or blessing

Best man's toast

Meal service

Additional toasts

First dance

Father/daughter dance

Mother/son dance

Wedding party dance

Open dancing

Cake cutting

Bride and groom toast

Garter and bouquet toss

More dancing

Send-off