Unfortunately, not all problems are the result of poor planning or misguided wedding professionals. Some problems, especially those involving feuding families, cannot be predicted. There is no single correct answer to any question regarding family difficulties; it all depends upon family history and the dynamics of a particular situation. If you suspect a problem is on the horizon, be proactive, discuss your concerns, and make a plan about what to do in case any tensions flare up or an unexpected tragedy occurs.

D-I-V-O-R-C-E

What can I do if my husband's ex-wife shows up at the church uninvited? If you think she intends to cause a scene, alert your ushers to this possibility ahead of time so that when she arrives they can quietly ask her to leave. You can also ask a relative or close friend to be a point person in this situation, keeping post at the door to head her off.

Cordially Uninvited

I uninvited my brother to the wedding, and I am afraid he is going to show up anyway. What can I do to make sure he doesn't ruin my day? Short of hiring security, which is actually an option if you are very concerned, you will have to ask your groomsmen or other reliable friends to keep an eye out for him and ask him to leave. You and your fiancé need to find others to help you with this so that you don't end up in an argument on the church steps with your brother. Be sure to let your venue and wedding planner know what is happening; they may be able to assist too.

We have friends of friends that were not invited to the wedding but they keep talking as if they are coming. What do I do if they show up? First, ask your mutual friends to help you out by tactfully mentioning to the other couple that they are not invited. You may also choose to be more direct and talk to them yourself, confirming they are not invited. If they do show up, have someone talk to them and explain they are not on the guest list and there is not a seat for them.