Who should tell my fiancé's children? Your fiancé should be the one who communicates the happy news to his children. Once the children have been told, you can join in and, together, you can talk with the children about their concerns and how to include them in the planning and the wedding.

Should I let my ex know that I will be getting married again? Even if you do not have children together, it is only courteous to let your ex know so that he is not shocked when he hears it through the grapevine. If you share children, your ex should be told soon after the children are told. You will need to work out custody arrangements and other issues, and he can then help the children with any feelings they may have.

Celebratory Soirées

Can we have an engagement party if we have been married before? There is no reason you cannot. In fact, most of the events you had for a first wedding are perfectly okay, within reason, for a subsequent trip to the altar.

Is it proper to have wedding showers or other pre-wedding parties? If someone from your fiancé's side wants to throw a shower for you, fine, but don't expect anyone from your side of the family to throw you another shower, especially if you had a big one the first time around. Your friends and family should find other ways to celebrate your upcoming marriage, perhaps with a cocktail or dinner party. However, if it is your first marriage but your fiancé's second, then a shower is fine.