Hope and Denial

Get ready, because if your child is in a honeymoon, you're going to wonder if there was a mistake in your child's diagnosis. As wonderful as a honeymoon can be, it can also trick the best of minds. Hope and denial are powerful emotions. Keeping them in check during this time is important to long-term emotional well-being.

Your Own Wishes

What parent would not hope the doctors were wrong? No one can easily accept that their perfect child has an incurable disease that means a daily, sometimes hourly, struggle. A honeymoon, more often than not, leaves a parent doubting her team's diagnosis.

So what's a parent to do? First and foremost, go ahead and ask your medical team. Don't worry about insulting them; they are used to being asked this very question. Let them explain why they are certain their diagnosis is correct. Don't listen to any outsiders; urban legends of diabetes just going away abound. You need to trust your team. If you still cannot let go of that doubt, ask your primary care physician to get you a second, independent opinion.

Your Arrogance

This can also be a time when caregivers assume their child's good numbers are simply because they are better at diabetes care than anyone else. First of all, you are great at caring for your child. The fact that you take the time to read books and learn all you can about care means you're a champion for your child. Second, that does not mean the reason his numbers are within target now is just you. There will come a time when the honeymoon ends, and you'll still be that amazing parent. Do not assign your self-worth as a parent to blood sugars. Rather, assign it to the effort and love you put into the situation, no matter the short-term outcomes.

Your Child's Wishes

No wish can be stronger (or more expected to become reality) than that of a child. With very small children, the idea of diabetes in general will be an unwelcome one, and even in a honeymoon period, your child is adapting to what they see, in their small-child mind (and rightfully so), as a major life adjustment. For the smaller child, a shot is a shot and a finger poke is a finger poke. More predictable numbers or less need to adjust doses is not going to affect their point of view.

But an older child—and that is any child who can reason or understand expectations—can be tricked by a honeymoon period. Your child may notice that the high blood sugar feeling that was so acute at diagnosis time really has not come around again. She may find that it's easy to know what dose she needs for certain foods or activities. Encourage her to enjoy this rather peaceful diabetes time, but make sure you say it out loud: “Your diabetes is not going away.”

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