Checking Meters, Asking Questions
Be forewarned: Your child will think that independence means her diabetes is none of your business. Now, even more than ever, it needs to be something you check on and oversee (even from a distance) each and every day.
Teens more than anyone know how to trick meters. For this reason, you'll need to keep your teen honest. At least once a day, watch as your child checks. If possible, either you or another adult should watch every check. And every day, look at the numbers in the meter and the times that are there. If your child claims the time is broken, fix it or get another meter. If your child claims he did a check on another meter, demand to see it right then.
If your child says this makes him feel as if you don't trust him, let him know that you're just looking out for his safety. If he's telling the truth, give him a day off from time to time. Let him know he can earn more independence with proven trust.
When It Doesn't Add Up
If you find that your child's actions don't match how she claims her life is going, don't be afraid to question her and don't take pat answers. As much as you want to trust your child, demand proof. If you do this from the start, it will not be confrontational. Treat it like another chore, just like taking out the trash or folding the laundry; sit down and go over the numbers with your child each day.
You'll also need to pay close attention if you see other health changes, especially rapid weight gain or loss, to make sure your child is doing well with more independence. Remember, the time will come when you set her free. It's just not completely the right time yet.
Most meters now have software for downloading numbers onto the computer. This can be a rather interesting, yet passive way for you and your child to check on how she is doing. If you don't have this software, call your meter company to get it.