Living in Healthy Relationships
One of the most beautiful arts of the artist of the spirit is her relationships of all kinds — romantic partnerships, child and parent relationships, and those with friends and strangers. All relationships are based on agreements, and in the old dream those agreements are mostly unspoken and unconscious. Living in the dream of heaven on Earth gives the eagle warrior entirely new agreements for her relationships.
Agreements are defined as a contract or arrangement between two or more people, wherein everyone involved agrees to the same terms and conditions. They can be verbal or written. The agreements between humans in the dream of the planet about relationships, child rearing, religion, and life are usually hidden and often silent disagreements.
Her new agreements are based on a love that expects no rewards, makes no bargains, holds no expectations, demands no conditions, and takes no hostages. She is free to love the entire universe from her spirit, and individual humans according to her human preferences. Parasites living in the old dream can never see who she is and how she dreams, so whenever possible she soars with fellow eagles, on the exhilarating updrafts of openhearted love and respect.
Living in Love in the New Dream
Because she is able to see how other people are dreaming, the eagle warrior does not take their perceptions of her personally, nor does she believe her opinions about them. She knows that everyone creates their own emotional reactions based on how they dream, so she respects the emotions of others, without feeling responsible for them or needing to fix them. If in doubt, she asks questions instead of assuming what her partner and others are thinking and feeling.
The warrior knows she is the source of love in her life, and she gives her love freely, without concern for whether it is appreciated or returned. She does not depend on the love or approval of others for her self-worth, nor does she expect them to make her happy. She is happy because she loves. She loves because it makes her happy.
The eagle warrior experiences the same love, as acceptance, in all of her relationships. She accepts her romantic partner exactly as he is, and chooses each day to be in the relationship. The warrior is never a victim of her partner, her relationship, or her commitment. She is always in choice, because she loves and honors herself first, and will not go against herself or use anyone else to go against her.
Living in Truth in Relationships
One of the most powerful agreements in the dream of the planet says, “You should consider other people's feelings before your own, and not do or say things that will hurt or upset them.” The eagle warrior has broken that agreement as part of her journey on the Toltec path. Her new agreement affirms that her loyalty is to her own feelings and needs, and she is dedicated to living and acting on that truth in her life.
This new agreement is one of the most difficult to make and keep in the mastery of transformation. The parasite within is frightened by what will happen if the warrior is loyal to her own truth. It is afraid that if she gets too big, she will become a target of rejection or abuse again. Her parasite wants to keep her small to protect her. If her personal parasite fails, the parasites in the dream of the planet will do everything they can to domesticate her back into the old ways. The eagle warrior simply continues to love and comfort those frightened parts, and takes over the role of protector from them.
Living in the present moment is a gift the warrior gives herself. When she surrenders her attachments to the outcomes of her relationship, she can be present in them, in love, and without fear. She listens to her own inner truth, and relates to whomever she chooses, without having to take care of their feelings.
The eagle warrior uses her truth in all her relationships to guide herself and her relationships in harmony with life. She shares her feelings with her romantic partner; she tells him what she needs and wants, what she is afraid of, and what she loves. Her book of truth is open to him and she has chosen a partner who respects her feelings along with his own. Together they share their truth, and release their attachments to controlling the outcome. The warrior and her partner share and celebrate each moment in true love, free from the fear they knew in their old dreams. They dance in joy with the angel of life.
Living with Children in the New Dream
The eagle warrior's transformation has completely changed her relationship with children. She sees the perfection of all children and accepts them without reservation. She knows that everything kids say and do is the perfect expression of how they are dreaming. The warrior honors their dreams, and negotiates with them respectfully when necessary. Even when she must use her adult authority to enforce schedules and rules, she does it without judgment of their desires or behavior.
The warrior knows that children are never wrong or bad, but simply lack the experience and skills to perform at adult levels. She helps them develop the skills they need — pouring milk, wiping up spills, trusting their feelings, and discharging their emotions — without judgment or frustration. She has no expectations for them to be any different than they are, so they are free to be themselves, and evolve naturally. The eagle warrior's children are present, alert, responsive, cooperative, and express themselves freely.