Orgasm Facts and Fallacies

From the time we are in junior high school (or perhaps earlier) we are bombarded with all kinds of rumors, myths, old wives' tales, and just flat-out lies involving sex and, more specifically, orgasms. Let's try to sort out fact from fiction when it comes to this important topic.

Orgasm Facts

Here are some interesting facts related to orgasms:

  • An orgasm is a totally normal, natural process. In fact, researches have discovered that infants experience involuntary orgasms within the first few weeks of life. And, of course, some people have experienced orgasms in their sleep.

  • Most people who claim they “can't” have an orgasm are actually physically capable of experiencing an orgasm — they simply do not know how. This is especially common among women.

  • Both men and women are most likely to experience their first orgasm through masturbation.

  • Involuntary orgasms during sleep (known as “wet dreams”) can happen to both genders, although this tends to be more common in men.

  • In a survey conducted by ABC News, almost half the female respondents said they have faked an orgasm. By contrast, only 11 percent of men said they had faked it. In the same survey, 75 percent of sexually active men said they “always” have an orgasm, while only 30 percent of women said the same.

Orgasm Fallacies

There are lots of myths, misconceptions, and outright lies surrounding orgasms. One of the most prevalent? Many people believe orgasm and ejaculation are synonymous and interchangeable. Tantra views these as two distinctly different and separate occurrences.

There is also the idea that female ejaculation is a myth. Many people are surprised to learn that female ejaculation does indeed exist. Even more surprising, it is something that apparently can be taught and learned. This is evidenced by the numerous books and videos available on the topic.

Male Orgasm Myths

A lot of commonly believed myths surround the male orgasm. First, many people believe men are not capable of experiencing multiple orgasms. In fact, Tantra teaches some techniques that are designed to help men experience more than one orgasm during a single session.

There is also the belief that prolonging orgasm is painful (physically and mentally) for the man, and prolonging orgasm is often seen as something negative, a type of punishment or something the man tolerates just for the woman's sake. However, Tantra teaches the importance and benefits of prolonging orgasm, and how it can in fact be more pleasurable.

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