Food and Wine
Sex toys and props are not limited to things you can wear or insert in various parts of your body. It can also involve things you eat and drink. For many people, food and wine play a pivotal role in the whole romantic experience.
We all know that eating certain foods can be a sensual experience. Picture a luscious, decadent assortment of rich chocolates. And there are the stereotypical aphrodisiacs like oysters and the above-mentioned chocolates. But “fantasy foods” can vary from one couple to another. For people with a sweet tooth, candies and cake can help set the mood. On the other hand, fitness buffs may find that a health smoothie really gets their sexual juices flowing. Tradition may also play a role: Couples often get turned on by foods that hold special significance in their relationship — something that reminds them of the meal they shared on their first date, for example.
We all know the stereotypical romantic scene, straight out of the movies, that features a bottled of pricey champagne chilling in a bucket on ice. And it is true that champagne — or whatever type of alcohol you prefer — can help set a romantic mood. Many people like to enjoy a glass or two of wine to help them relax. For the sexually shy or skittish, a small amount of alcohol can be helpful in loosening the inhibitions. Plus, it can be romantic to share a glass of champagne — and perhaps make a toast to a happy future together.
When it comes to alcohol and romantic encounters, watch out for a few pitfalls. Engaging in sex while severely drunk is never a good idea. And if you realize that you or your partner can only enjoy sex after drinking, that's a red flag. And obviously you should never have sex if your partner is so inebriated as to not be aware of his or her actions.
Setting the Scene
Often, when it comes to food and romance, it is not so much a matter of what you eat as how you eat it. It can be sexy to take turns feeding each other — try a romantic staple like strawberries dipped in whipped cream, or take turns experimenting with your own selections.
If using a table, appearance counts. Adorn the table with a lace or silk tablecloth, if possible, and break out your best dinnerware. Nothing kills a romantic mood faster than paper plates and plastic cups.
Or use your partner's body as a buffet table. Have her lie flat on her back and then place various foods (obviously nothing too hot or cold) on specific parts of her body.
Food as Sex Toy
Of course, you can also work the food into your sex life in a more active, direct way. Some couples like to use food items as an actual sex toy by placing them in or on the erogenous zones. A common example: eating whipped cream off your partner's private parts. Or using a cucumber or similar food as a makeshift dildo (only after thoroughly washing it, of course). It can also be exciting to use an ice cube in your sexual routine. Putting something warm or cold in your mouth before performing oral sex on your partner can create some unique sensations. Be creative: Some women have tried placing a glazed donut around their man's penis and eating it off as part of oral sex.