Accept Your Newfound Openness
As you progress in your Tantric journey, you will find yourself becoming more open to the world and the people around you. You will be receptive to new experiences, relationships, and feelings. This is a good thing, as it allows you to expand your life's journey and broaden your horizons, allowing you to enjoy many exciting and pleasurable things.
However, being open and receptive to new things can be scary and foreign, especially if you have always been cautious and tended to take the “safe” road before.
Realize that new does not equal bad. It is natural and good to try new things and welcome new experiences. Even if you do not ultimately decide to make all of these new experiences a regular part of your life, you have enriched your existence just by branching out into new areas.
Some ancient Tantrics believed that in order to have a completely full and satisfying life, one must explore every possible activity, including (or perhaps especially) those viewed as sinful by the general population. So some ancient Tantrics actually sought out the most scandalous activities possible. That's an extreme, but being just a bit “naughty” occasionally can be refreshing.
If you had previously become accustomed to stifling your feelings or denying your natural urges, this new freedom to express yourself and embrace life's wonders can be disconcerting and maybe even frightening. You may have the urge to put up your guard, or to build emotional walls to keep you from feeling so vulnerable. Resist this instinct. Vulnerability is a good thing in this case. It allows you to communicate freely with loved ones and experience stronger connections than ever before. And with your partner, this openness will help you express your needs and desires, and be totally honest in your thoughts, words, and actions. Your partner will be pleasantly surprised by this transformation and will appreciate you trusting her with your most treasured secrets. This most likely will motivate your partner, in turn, to be more open with you and make him feel free to express himself in a more significant way.
Granting yourself permission to be completely open and receptive to Tantra and to your partner will fill you with a powerful sense of freedom and peace. You will no longer need to worry about shame, hesitation, embarrassment, or any of those other things that may be holding you back. This will open many exciting new days for you and pave the way for countless new experiences and fantastic journeys.
