When it comes to Tantra, spirituality, and consciousness, there are some important things to keep in mind:

• Sex is just one of the vehicles that can carry us to the state of pure bliss. Just as we contain the same elements as the universe, each one of us is comprised of opposing types of characteristics: masculine and feminine, good and bad, dark and light. Tantra teaches us to let go of preconceived ideas and reach a state of spiritual awakening. This, then, is true consciousness, breaking free from polarities. As you perfect the Tantric art and cultivate your sensibilities, you will expand into higher and higher dimensions of consciousness.

• Tantra also teaches us that we do not belong to anyone or anything. By the same token, nothing belongs to us, either. We are all a small part of the cosmic consciousness. What exists without also exists within. In other words, we are all miniatures of the universe.

• In our personal relationships, we often enter into games of power and possession. Inevitably, these cause us pain, confusion, and anger and result in all sorts of negative reactions. When we are accustomed to acting in this way, it tends to become a repetitive cycle. Tantra teaches us to move away from those patterns. It is essential to keep in mind that you do not belong to your partner and he or she does not belong to you. You are separate beings who are fortunate enough to be able to intertwine in a state of spiritual bliss. There are no boundaries.

• Tantrics believe that an important way to achieve consciousness is to love and accept yourself for who you are and what you stand for. This consciousness then stimulates your higher spiritual and sexual powers.

• Tantra requires dedication. One must dedicate time for thought and meditation, and time to be with one's partner. In order to tap into our spiritual selves, we must increase awareness, deepen our breathing, listen more carefully, and practice with our partner. Once you begin the Tantric path and begin to feel the effects it has on your life, you will not want to go back. As you grow in spiritual awareness, you will be that much closer to knowing your partner and yourself, ultimately, and pure bliss.