Why Space Matters
You are probably already very aware of the correlation between your environment and your state of mind. Just thinking of the enjoyable aura of specific places where you feel relaxed probably has a calming effect on your demeanor.
It goes without saying that it is much easier to feel relaxed and focused when you are in a peaceful place that evokes a sense of calmness. By contrast, it can be tough to feel centered and peaceful if you are surrounded by noise, distractions, and stress. Anyone who has ever worked in a busy office — or tried to concentrate while kids were roughhousing in the same room — can attest to the importance of a calm space. Even if you had previously felt relaxed and content, entering a stressful or chaotic space will immediately increase your tensions and anxiety levels.
Space and Sensuality
All human beings need a calm space where they can retreat and recuperate from the stresses of the outside world. You need a safe haven, a place to be alone with your thoughts and escape from any negative forces. This is especially true when you are trying to create a sacred space for your lovemaking. You want a sensual space that welcomes you and your partner with a comforting feeling. This should be a place that can serve as your escape from the chaos and distractions of the world outside. It is your sanctuary where you can share your innermost secrets, private desires, and wildest fantasies with your partner without distractions or disturbances. In your sacred space, you should be able to fully concentrate on just enjoying the moments you share with that special person.
Think about how you feel when you go away to a very romantic resort or lovers' getaway. Chances are, you automatically begin to feel romantic, loving — perhaps even aroused, even if you did not feel that way before you arrived. The setting sets the spark that creates the mood. The good news is, you do not need to limit this experience to the rare times when you can head to a distant getaway. You can create your own private lovers' retreat right in your very own home.
Need to create your own private pleasure palace, but don't have a lot of time? Concentrate on the big things like eliminating major distractions and mood killers. Remove the phone (or at least make sure it is unplugged), get rid of the TV, and set up some romantic, soothing candles. A few small gestures can make a big difference.