Tips from an Expert
Al Link is the author of numerous books on the subject of Tantric sex, and a big believer in the importance of the perfect sensual space. Here are his tips for creating the perfect romantic environment:
Creating a sacred space is a simple, fun, playful method by which lovers can communicate to their highest and deepest levels of consciousness, in the realm of imagination and creativity, that their intention is to create a spiritual, sacred, or holy experience. This is not any ordinary quick romp in the sack. It's something special, made so by the lovers' intention. Their intention is manifested in the act of taking five or fifteen minutes to:
Change the lighting in the room by using candles or red light bulbs that flatter skin.
Bring in plants or fresh cut flowers.
Drape colored cloth over sharp edges of furniture or to hide distractions such as a TV.
Light incense or essential oils to stimulate the sense of smell.
Arrange beautiful objects or those that have special emotional significance, like photos, mementos from trips, or romantic gifts to each other to awaken the heart.
Present tasty tidbits of food and drink to lovingly serve each other and provide nourishment during your loving time.
Gather a selection of music that ranges from spiritually uplifting, through romantic, to erotic, to calming, so that all your moods can be matched and enhanced.
Array a selection of massage oils, lubricants, sex toys, so that if you want them they're easily at hand.
After the room is set up to the lovers' sensual satisfaction, ceremonies — such as the four directions ceremony — help to further purify and sanctify the space. Such actions leave no doubt that this is not just sex, but sacred sex.
Four Directions Ceremony
A four directions ceremony is a traditional ritual to bring good luck to a specific space and make it sacred. In an outdoor ceremony, smoke is often used. It is sent in all four directions while prayers and chants are spoken to sanctify the area and banish any bad spirits. Indoors, this can be done with herbs, incense, or oils — or simply be sending prayers in all four directions. Or, you can arrange four candles, setting one in each corner of the room.
Walk around the room, stopping in front of each candle. Bow or kneel and say a prayer or chant asking the universe to protect the area and allow only positive energy into the space.
As you perform this ritual, you might want to keep in mind that, traditionally, each direction represents a specific element or quality:
East — connected to the element of fire, which also symbolizes light and clarity
West — the earth element, which can represent roots, your foundation, or strength
North — air, which represents freedom and intelligence
South — water, which symbolizes trust