From a Tantric viewpoint, we all have one common lifestyle: sensual and spiritual. We each put those aspects into action in different ways, through the lifestyle path we choose. Tantra — especially Neo-Tantra — embraces all lifestyle options, believing one should follow whatever path is right for his or her soul.
Gay and Bisexual
It is true that, according to many gurus, traditional Tantra was not exactly supportive and encouraging where homosexuality was involved. Ancient texts reportedly warned of the dangers of male homosexuality (also known as reverse kundalini) and stressed the negative physical and psychological effects of this type of sex.
However, views have evolved on that issue. Modern Tantra does not view homosexuality or bisexuality as anything to be scorned, ridiculed, or viewed as foreign. Although Tantric texts stress the importance of male and female union, this does not need to be interpreted literally. It can also be taken to mean the union of male and female spirits, both of which live inside each of us. At most Tantra events, there are quite a few gay and bisexual participants and attendees. There are even workshops and retreats specifically geared toward those in same-sex relationships.
Couples Who Practice Polyamory
Earlier in this book, the practice of polyamory was discussed in great detail. People who practice a polyamorous lifestyle believe in loving many, which often translates into sexual union with a number of different partners. This is similar to what many people not familiar with polyamory might also call “swinging,” although the two lifestyles have very different philosophies. Because this lifestyle is unconventional, it is often seen as strange or perverted, and the people who practice it may find themselves the target of ridicule, scorn, or discrimination. As a result, they are often forced to be very discreet, keeping their lifestyle a secret from the world around them.
But for polyamorous people, Tantra can be a safe haven. There are numerous members of the Tantric community who practice polyamory as a lifestyle, so this is not viewed as something weird or unusual. People who practice polyamory will find themselves welcome. In fact, there are many events, Web sites, and clubs devoted exclusively to Tantra for polyamorous people.
To learn more about polyamory and the people who practice it, visit the Web site of the Polyamory Society at