Sensual and Erotic Massage

You can start your massage session with a sensual massage (which differs from the sexual massage discussed later in this chapter). This can be a great way to help your partner unwind, and it can also help you gauge his or her comfort level before you attempt to proceed to a more intimate massage.

Getting Started

Have your partner lie down with his or her head on one pillow and the genitals raised by placing the pillow beneath the hips. This will enable your partner to see his or her genitals as well as your face. The legs should be spread apart and the knees slightly bent. You may even want to place a cushion beneath the knees for added support.

Any type of intense or prolonged massage can become tiring for the provider, and can also put a strain on hands and fingers. If your massage session lasts for a while, you should take an occasional break to stretch your fingers for a moment. Or, give your hands a short reprieve while you use your elbows or other body parts to perform the massage.

Begin by using your fingertips to gently and quickly caress the body. Use enough pressure to avoid tickling, but remember that you are not performing a deep-tissue massage here — it should be gentle. Encourage your partner to provide feedback on whether the pressure is too rough (or too soft). Be sure to maintain eye contact and take deep breaths. Ideally, this experience should be almost as relaxing for you as it is for your partner. Help your partner to continue deep breathing throughout the massage.

Focus on the Entire Body

This will be a thorough massage encompassing the entire body. Initially, you should focus on the nonsexual areas of the body, like the feet, hands, and face. This will help build the anticipation, but it will also allow you to lavish attention on parts of your partner's body that may usually get “forgotten.” In the process, the two of you may discover some new territory when it comes to erogenous zones. You may realize there are some untapped “hot spots” that send little thrills throughout your body.

Are there any special Tantric massage methods?

In keeping with the principles of Tantra, it is important to focus equal attention on both sides of the body in order to achieve balance and harmony. In other words, spend just as much time on the left side of the body as on the right. Spending uneven amounts of time on the two sides of the body may throw your partner's balance out of whack.

Be sure to take your time and show appreciation for all areas of your partner's body. While this massage often leads to sex, it should be treated as a satisfying romantic experience all of its own. You do not want to give your partner the impression that you are only going through the motions and are eager to just “get this over with” so you can move on to the main event.

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