Woman on Top
Another popular type of sexual position involves the woman positioned on top of the man. Many women — especially modern women comfortable with their sexuality — prefer the woman-on-top positions best. For one thing, some women find this position to be a real power trip. They like the idea of being in a dominating position over their man.
From a physical standpoint, this position is much more conducive to female orgasms than the missionary position. There is greater freedom of movement, allowing the woman to guide the man into a position that feels best for her.
In addition, the woman and/or her partner can stimulate her clitoris manually while in this position. Since the woman does most of the moving and thrusting in this position, she can set the pace and keep things moving at the rate she likes most. She can also take greater control over the angle, rhythm, and speed of movement, so she can find the perfect combination for maximum clitoral and G-spot stimulation.
For men, probably the greatest appeal of this position is the great view they get of their partner's breasts. Plus, a lot of men enjoy this position because it gives them a break, since the woman does most of the work. In addition, it can be exciting for a man to see his female partner in the “dominant” position. It also helps men delay ejaculation because they can relax more in this pose instead of actively thrusting.
Figure 10-1: Basic woman-on-top position
The basic woman-on-top position involves a man lying flat, with his legs either straight or with knees slightly bent, and the woman on top of him, so they are facing each other. The woman generally keeps her upper body raised, so she is almost in a sitting position, similar to if she were riding a horse. This position is sometimes referred to as the inverted missionary or the cowgirl position.
For maximum pleasure, the woman should use her hands and knees to support her weight as she lifts herself up and down off of the man's body. She should raise and lower herself at varying speeds and to varying heights for a wide range of pleasurable sensations for herself and her partner. In the Kama Sutra, this is known as the “Fluttering and Soaring Butterfly.”
Other Woman-on-Top Positions
There are only three woman-on-top positions mentioned in the Kama Sutra. These are “Pair of Tongs” (the position mentioned above), the “Top” or “Bee” (where the woman turns around completely, so she is facing her lover's feet), and the “Swing” (where the man lies on his back, raises his hips in a pelvic lift and the woman sits astride him; in a more vigorous variation the man would do a complete back bend). The Kama Sutra also mentions the “Mare's Trick,” which is the skill of squeezing vaginal muscles during intercourse. Woman-on-top was considered unnatural by followers of the Kama Sutra and many people who lived during the period when it was written, a naughty rarity if lovers were curious or if a man was tired out and the woman not yet satisfied. Woman-on-top was referred to as “woman acting the part of the man.”
