Are You Really Ready?
Before going any further, it is important to look inside yourself and honestly assess your readiness to explore Tantra. Be totally sincere with yourself about your interest (or lack of it) in pursuing this. You may not be ready for this step at this specific point in your life. Jumping into this experience just because you think it sounds “cool” or trendy, or because you just met a hot new girl and want to impress her with some new tricks in your sexual repertoire may not be the best motivation. So let's explore your readiness to start this road to Tantric enlightenment.
Open Your Mind
Perhaps the most important thing you need in order to start this journey is an open mind. Forget any preconceived notions you may have of Tantra and the people who practice it. Many people have heard various myths and misconceptions involving Tantra and related topics like the Kama Sutra and Taoism. In most cases, these notions are based on false stereotypical images that are completely off the mark. Most people find that Tantra is completely different from what they expected and are pleasantly surprised by what they discover. This very likely could turn out to be true in your case, as well.
Leave Your Preconceived Notions Behind
It is important that you do not walk into this with any prejudices or ulterior motives, or you will be sure to fail. In order to benefit from Tantric teachings, you must approach it with a totally open mind, receptive to new and different ideas and beliefs.
You must be open to exploring ideas that may seem strange or totally foreign to you at first. It is also important that you are not afraid of appearing silly or “different.” To many people, some of the techniques encouraged in Tantra — the romantic rituals for example, or the chanting and breathing techniques — may feel awkward, uncomfortable, or even embarrassing at first. Do not give in to these feelings. They will only impede your spiritual awakening. Allowing yourself to be controlled by your inhibitions or fears will make it difficult for you to fully benefit from the wonders of Tantra.