Advice from the Experts
Al Link and Pala Copeland are longtime Tantra teachers and authors who have counseled many new aspiring Tantrics. They share this advice for people new to the subject: “Beginners who wish to explore Tantra can learn a great deal from reading even one book or attending one weekend workshop. On the other hand, you can go on learning more for the rest of your life. The most important thing is to get started by experimenting to find which of the many approaches, methods, and techniques appeal to you and feel right when you try them.”
Al and Pala offer these suggestions to help you take small steps into the world of Tantra:
Start paying attention to your body's messages — listen to it, inside and out. Do a body scan, starting at your head or your feet, focusing your attention on each part as you systematically move through your system.
Take one minute every few hours to focus on your senses — smell, hear, feel, etc., without naming — just experience.
Let go of focusing on a “finish line” type of goal in sex. Replace it with a goal of simply experiencing pleasure.
Include simple ways to connect to your lover, before, during, and after lovemaking.
Match your breathing rhythms — inhale and exhale together.
Look into each other's eyes, softly and deeply.