Foreplay is a time to be adventurous and creative, so there are very few hard-and-fast rules. But there are a few general guidelines that might be helpful to keep in mind:

• Don't underestimate the importance of foreplay. This is a critical part of your relationship and a great way to strengthen your intimate connection. Never view it as a chore.

• Do maintain a lot of variety in your foreplay routine. It should never get so predictable that it falls into the Step 1, Step 2, Step 3 type of pattern.

• Don't look at foreplay as an “opening act” for intercourse. Often, foreplay can be a satisfying experience all on its own.

• Don't keep score when it comes to foreplay. It's not a case where if one partner gets ten minutes of his or her favorite foreplay, the other needs an exact amount. Foreplay should flow naturally and be flexible according to each partner's needs and wants.