Treat Yourself as the Goddess You Are
Ideally, your partner and others around you will treat you as the goddess you are, and lavish you with the reverence and praise you should rightfully expect. However, don't feel like you need to sit around waiting for someone else to treat you like a goddess. Feel free to take matters into your own hands and enjoy some well-deserved self-indulgence. Unfortunately, for many women, this does not come naturally. Women are taught from an early age to take care of others, so it can often feel indulgent or selfish to take care of yourself. Ignore those thoughts. Keep reminding yourself that you are a divine goddess worthy of life's pleasures.
Bring Out Your Inner Goddess
In traditional Tantric teachings, women were taught the importance of recognizing and nurturing their inner goddess. Women were encouraged to seek their internal goddess powers and embrace them. Only then, it was believed, could the woman seek (and hopefully attain) a transcendental union with her partner. That was also the only way the woman could attain sexual freedom and psychological and emotional healing and growth.
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A big part of nurturing your inner goddess is recognizing your incredible value and worth. This may not come naturally to women, who are often accustomed to putting themselves and their own needs and desires last. It may take some conscious effort on your part, but you must learn to put yourself first sometimes. First and foremost, guard your health and well-being and make your health needs a top priority. Take the time to exercise, meditate, and do everything else in your power to maintain a healthy lifestyle.
You should also pamper your inner goddess by allowing yourself some well-deserved indulgences. This can be anything from weekly pedicures to a spa retreat with friends.
If you feel selfish indulging yourself, remember that everyone around you will benefit if you are content and feel spiritually nurtured. When you feel good inside, your relationships will reap the benefits. So if not for your own sake, do it for those around you who want to see you happy and who will enjoy the benefits of your joyful state of mind.
Help Is Available
If you need help recognizing and invoking your inner goddess, you are in luck. There are numerous Tantric workshops and events dedicated solely to this topic. For example, a group of female Tantra teachers present frequent workshops called “Embracing the Goddess Within.” (For details, visit
If a female suffers major physical or emotional trauma at an early age (especially if it involves sexual abuse), it is believed that her inner goddess may retreat or hide, leading to fear or avoid sex later on. As a result, it would be important for the woman to make a special effort to bring out the goddess hiding within her.
Set the Stage
Sometimes when you are trying to evoke your inner goddess, it can help if you have the proper environment. Set up a special romantic area for your intimate encounters. If you like, you can even create a little “altar” — not in the religious sense, but a special area dedicated solely to the worship of your goddess spirit. This can also be an important part of your sacred space, where your partner can worship at your feet. Adorn your altar with meaningful mementos, perhaps pictures of yourself, your partner, and other loved ones. Add little meaningful romantic touches, such as souvenirs from romantic getaways with your partner. Place a radio nearby for some soothing music to help set the proper mood. For a finishing touch, adorn your altar with flowers and aromatic candles.
