Become Even More Open and Orgasmic
Perhaps the ultimate celebration of your goddess powers occurs in the form of an orgasm. This is when you truly achieve a higher state of being and transcend into a goddess state.
This may sound strange, but many women simply are not good at receiving pleasure. It is not an automatic thing, and it may not feel natural at first. Women by nature are caretakers, taught from an early age to attend to everyone else's needs. This is especially true when it comes to husbands and partners. Many women are so focused on pleasing their partners that they neglect their own needs. Instead they focus on doing whatever their partner wants and making sure he is satisfied. In the end, women end up feeling frustrated and unfulfilled, but they don't know how to prevent this.
The solution is simple, at least on paper. You need to recognize your needs and give yourself permission to fulfill your desires. This pleasure is rightfully yours, well deserved, and befitting your status as a goddess. Remind yourself that you do not need to be the caretaker and provider of pleasure all of the time. Sometimes it is okay to be “selfish” sexually and allow your partner to please you, possibly without any reciprocation on your part. This will actually in turn heighten your partner's pleasure, because most men become aroused by pleasing their woman. If it helps, think of it as doing him a favor by granting him the privilege of pleasuring you. Besides, you will “even the score” by treating him to a night of total indulgence when it is his turn.
Roadblocks to Orgasm
Unfortunately, even though orgasm is a very natural process, many women have great difficulty reaching this point. They get sidetracked and thrown off track by physical, emotional, and mental obstacles. It is imperative for women to learn how to get rid of these obstacles, or heal any existing wounds, in order to pursue their destined orgasmic state.
The first and most important step is to open yourself up to the experience of total satisfaction. Many women falsely believe they are being open and receptive to this experience, when in fact they have put up various roadblocks.
If you are allowing your mind to wander during sex, and you are thinking about whether your thighs look big, whether you are making any strange noises — or even if you forgot to drop off the dry cleaning earlier today — you are blocking the road to orgasm by making yourself mentally distracted. This is a time when you need full concentration and focus.
One major (and common) obstacle: expecting your partner(s) to give you an orgasm. This is a lot of pressure to put on your partner, and the sexual experience. Your partner does not give you an orgasm, although he may greatly help accelerate the process. But this cannot happen unless you allow yourself to receive this help, by opening yourself up to the idea and welcoming the climax, allowing orgasm to happen.
Another roadblock to orgasm is thinking too much. Many women have trouble freeing their minds during sex and allowing themselves to just feel without overanalyzing the situation. Instead, they start obsessing about their long-established beliefs that sex is dirty or bad. Talk about a mood killer! This will immediately cause them to tense up and block the road to bliss, even if they don't consciously realize it.
A man can help his female partner open herself up to orgasm by providing lots of encouragement and support throughout the entire intimate encounter. He should remind her repeatedly how excited he gets by seeing her enjoying pleasure and by watching her give in to the sensations freely and without inhibitions.
While on the topic of women and orgasm, this would probably be a good place to discuss the phenomenon of female ejaculation. This is actually a controversial subject, with many people believing it does not exist at all. People in this doubting camp believe that this “ejaculatory fluid” is actually urine that is released involuntary during sex. However, traditional Taoists and Tantrics not only believed in female ejaculation, they viewed it with a kind of reverence, as a special act.
Female ejaculation refers to the release of a noticeable amount of fluid by a woman during orgasm. Even among people who believe in female ejaculation, there is much debate and differing opinions on things like what exactly is contained in the fluid, where it comes from, and whether every woman has the ability to experience ejaculation. It is usually thought that female ejaculation is most likely to occur as a result of G-spot stimulation.
Recent research seems to support the theory that most women do indeed release this fluid during an orgasm — although they might not realize it because the fluid is usually a very small amount and (despite what may be portrayed in some adult films) generally does not come gushing out with incredible force.