Setting Aside the Time Needed
As with anything else worth doing, studying sexual techniques takes time and effort. If you want to brush up on your bedroom skills, you will need to invest some time in your “research” — meaning, reading your books and watching your tapes. This is not something you want to squeeze in on the fly. You really want to be able to concentrate on the material.
It might take some planning and preparation, but you need to set aside some time when you can view your books or videos in privacy, preferably in peace and quiet.
A typical Tantra video can be an hour long or more. Some adult videos can even run several hours long. Books on Tantra or other sexual topics can easily exceed 200 pages.
Need something quicker for a crash course? Look for a quality adult magazine (choose carefully, as many adult publications contain offensive and overly graphic images).
If you have discovered a Tantric video or DVD (or any other kind of adult movie) that you really like, spread the word. Post positive reviews on sites like
If you plan to review these materials together with your partner, coordinate your schedules and arrange a “date” for a time when you both will be able to relax and focus on the task at hand. Odds are, this will give you something to look forward to while you are at work or otherwise engaged in your less-pleasurable daily tasks.
This may take some doing, but it will be well worth the effort. Spending some time improving your bedroom techniques and studying “intimate instructional material” with your partner is one of the best investments you can make to strengthen that special bond.