Men are taught to be independent and strong, to deal with things rationally and logically. Sometimes, this approach can be an effective way to handle a crisis, to get things accomplished, or to let things go that aren't worth dwelling on. But sometimes, rationality and strength don't address the real problem, which doesn't go away. Some men turn to drugs, alcohol, or other addictions such as gambling or sex to numb the pain or sadness or anxiety that come from too much stress. Many men get depressed, but far fewer men than women are likely to admit it or seek help for their depression.

Sometimes, not feeling the stress makes it worse. Eventually, the stress will take over and force you to feel it. The best way to ensure you remain in control is to manage the stress as it comes. Let yourself recognize it so that you can deal with it.

Recognize that “manliness” and everything that word implies for you could be interfering with your ability to manage your stress. Life doesn't have to be a competition. Success isn't always measured in dollars and prestige. You don't have to get by on five hours of sleep or try to keep up with your buddies at happy hour after work.

And you don't have to deny that you are feeling stressed. You don't have to tell everybody you meet, but you don't have to deny your stress to yourself. You can manage your stress in many ways that can make your life easier, and you can do many of the techniques that relieve stress alone in your own home. It's your business.