If everyone else is ready you probably are, too — right? Not necessarily, and that is okay. If you do not feel ready to meet the children, then speak up before it happens and before any sort of conversation about meeting you occur between your boyfriend and his children. Let him know if you are nervous or have concerns about meeting them. If you are simply nervous in a way similar to the way you might have been in high school when you met a boyfriend's parents, then you may just need to get over the initial meeting. If you are concerned, however, because kids aren't your cup of tea, you don't really want to stay in a relationship with your boyfriend, or you are already half way out the door of the relationship, tell him. By agreeing to meet his children, you are basically agreeing to be a positive part of their lives and someone who will be around for a while.

Your boyfriend should be relieved that you are concerned about the feelings of his children; however, this could bring up sensitive subjects around what is going on in your relationship, so be prepared. If your boyfriend thinks having his children meet you is no big deal because his children have met his last fifty girlfriends, you may want to speak up on behalf of his children and point out that introducing them to a revolving door of girlfriends may be extremely confusing for them. Children need and crave consistency. If you can't be consistent, don't meet them.