If your partner was in another relationship prior to your divorce or is in one immediately following your divorce, it might be more difficult to interact with him or your stepchild. Remember that your stepchild is not a reflection of him. Also, it is not fair to put your stepchild in the middle of you and your partner. Do not ask him about your partner's new relationship, if he is in a new relationship, if he goes out on dates, or any similar questions. If this will be difficult for you, you may have to minimize your time with your stepchild until you can act appropriately.

If you decide to cut down on time with your stepchild, do not blame it on your former partner's new relationship or his new partner. Blaming your inability to spend time with your stepchild on the new relationship might tarnish your stepchild's opinion of his parent's new partner. Although you might secretly wish that the relationship wouldn't last, think of how disruptive another breakup might be for your stepchild. This is where you need to keep your focus — on your stepchild, and what is best for him. Be sure your stepchild does not think he has caused you to spend less time with him. You can make up an excuse that is totally unrelated or be honest and tell him you are in a bit of a funk right now and need some alone time to be the supportive person you want to be for him.

If your partner becomes serious with his new partner, your time with your stepchild might decrease. There might be more family activities that now take the place of time you once had together. Instead of being jealous or angry, encourage your stepchild to take part in his new family situation. As the relationship becomes more serious, it is possible your partner will remarry. Be supportive in front of your stepchild, and do not speak negatively about your partner's decisions. It might be tough, but it will show your stepchild that your relationship with him is central in your mind and what happens between you and your former partner will not intervene.