Whether your sensory clashes with your child are major or minor, whether they manifest with small disagreements or knock-down, drag-out fights, it's important to let your child know what's going on. Tell your child what you're feeling, what you guess she's feeling, and why that causes a problem. Think out loud about what she could do or what you could do to resolve your differences.

For example, you might say something like, “I know singing loudly like that feels good to your ears. But loud noises make my ears feel bad. Maybe you could go in your room when you sing, so that I can hear you more softly through the door? Or maybe I could go to my room? What do you think?” Your younger child may not be able to benefit from this kind of interaction, but as your child gets older, he will most likely come to appreciate that your sensory feelings are different from your feelings of love for him, and he will follow your lead in talking and strategizing about sensory problems.