Playing the Victim Game
If you are not taking 100 percent responsibility for your life, you are playing the victim game. There are three major activities that the victim indulges in: blame, justification, and complaining. Playing the victim game is an excuse to not have to achieve. It takes away the responsibility of the individual and also the stress of failure.
People who play the victim game are notorious for placing the blame on others for their problems or failures. They find someone else to point the finger at rather than accepting responsibility. They will say that the reason they are the way they are is the fault of their spouse, family, parents, religion, society, employer, or even the government. They are either a victim or the target of a victimizer.
People who justify tend to say things like “Being healthy isn't important to me.” If health were not important to them, then they would not be seeking it. They might not want to be inconvenienced by having to exercise, eat healthy, or do what it takes, and it is easier to justify their actions by denying their desire for it.
Another justification is, “I don't really need money anyway.” This is a classic for those who cannot get a job or do not want to work for whatever reason. It is a justification of what they cannot acquire. Remember the basic rule when utilizing thought and your imagination: whatever you place your thoughts, focus, and attention on you attract to you. If you focus on not needing money, then that is exactly what you will get, no money.
By eliminating excuses from your vocabulary and taking responsibility for your actions, you will find that you can retake control of your life. A new terminology you can use is to “be straight” in your dealings and speech. If you say and do what you really mean, then there is no reason for excuses.
People who chronically complain tend to think they have rough lives. They have a “woe is me” attitude. They are attracting more of what they are complaining about to themselves. The negative, complaining type of energy is very contagious, and those who indulge in this activity often seek out the companionship of others who also complain. In fact, complainers seem to enjoy listening to each other and will anxiously wait for their turn to complain about what is negative in their lives.
Victims enjoy getting attention as they confuse getting attention with love. Many times they misinterpret love as what others can do for them or give to them. They feel that the way to be deserving or worthy of love is through “buying” it.