You may be thinking to yourself, I haven't felt “right” in ages. How do I find “right” in my life? Perhaps the best way to find “right” is to think about when you did not feel “right.” The answer may be in the negative more than the positive.

For example, suppose for a moment that you went to the post office and one of the clerks was very rude and unhelpful to you. During your conversation with him, you made several rude comments back to him and also made several remarks about his job performance. It felt great to get that off your chest. You feel good! He deserved it, you were thinking at the moment. Later in the evening or maybe in the car on the way home, you begin to regret what you did. You know that those comments did not help the situation. You know that you may have hurt someone. You begin to feel “less good” about what you did. Why? Because that action was not “right” with who you are as a person. That action went against the grain of your personal fabric. This is a perfect case of how “good” and “right” are very different. This is also a perfect scenario of how our self-esteem becomes damaged when we forego “right” to have a momentary “good” feeling.

Self-esteem is as complex as the heavens, as vast as the desert, as deep as the oceans, and as fleeting as the wind. But, self-esteem is also as simple as setting a personal goal, working toward that goal with passion, focusing on the positive aspects of your life, and adhering to your personal sense of “right” as you move through the days.