Getting There

Most books on motivation, leadership, change, personal effectiveness, and success suggest that successful people get to where they are by having a plan and having the help of others. How are you going to get to the point where you are living purposefully and living with healthy self-esteem? How are you going to find your purpose?

A Starting Point

“I'm not sure how to begin looking for my purpose,” you might say. “I don't have a clue as to how to begin.” The key to beginning is to simply begin. That sounds simple, but sometimes the first step is the most paralyzing step. To begin on your journey, start! That's right, get up out of the chair and take a symbolic step right now. As you take the step, say to yourself, “Today, I'm changing. Today, I begin living purposefully.” Put this book down and do it.

See, that was not so hard — strange maybe, but not hard. You have taken the first symbolic step and now you can take the first real step to finding your purpose in life.

Mental Work

Mental preparation is an important step in beginning your journey. You will need to capture the power of your desires to make this work. You will need to tell yourself that the journey is going to be worth the trip. You will need to convince yourself that if others are not supporting you, they will not be invited on the journey. Mental preparation is essential in discovering and living your purpose.

Beat the Clock

Procrastination can be a huge problem in discovering and living your purpose. Many people say, “I'll begin tomorrow.” For those people, tomorrow comes, but means nothing.

Some people seem to think that others have more time than they do, but that is a fallacy. We all have 24 hours a day, 168 hours a week, an average of 730 hours a month, and 8,760 hours a year — no more, no less. Time does not discriminate.

The reason it seems that others have more time is that they have learned to manage it better and they have learned that procrastination is the death of plans.

If you link your time management plan with your goals, you will see what an important correlation exists between the two. Without a commitment of time, your life goals will not be reached, your purpose will not be found, and your esteem will not be healthier.

Consider the following tips when planning time to find your purpose and change your life:

  • Make a list and prioritize the list daily.

  • Don't overbook your life with meaningless work.

  • Plan time for your improvement before anything else.

  • Plan time for solitude and reflection.

  • Plan time for exploration and discovery.

  • Focus

    For a moment, forget safety, forget fear, forget what others think, forget what happened in the past, forget your parents, your husband, your wife, your friends, your doubts, your inabilities, your responsibility — forget!

    Let them go for a moment and focus on one thing. What would your life be like if you found your purpose and began to live it? How would your life change? What could you accomplish for yourself and humankind? What greatness would come to you? How would your self-esteem be affected? Focus on that one question and let go of anything holding you back.

    Expect

    Few people expect greatness. Few people expect abundance. Few people actually expect happiness, but you can buck the trend and expect great things.

    So often, you focus on scarcity, not plenty. You focus on unhappiness, not joy. You focus on failure, not success. You focus on pain, not pleasure. You focus on aimlessness, not purpose. Today it is time to focus and look for what is rightfully yours, your purpose and mission in life.

    Finding your purpose may not be easy, but it will be one of the most rewarding gifts you ever give yourself. If you truly examine your needs, your wants, your desire, examine your perception of why you were put here, where you want to go, how you want to get there, and who you want to be when you get there, purpose can be yours.

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