Welcome! And congratulations! It may have taken a great deal of courage to meander over to this book, but in the words of an ancient Chinese philosopher, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” You are to be commended for taking that step. If you are reading these words because you feel a need to improve your self-esteem, you need to know that you are among the millions of people who suffer from self-doubt, fears of inadequacy, feelings of worthlessness, and unhealthy self-criticism. You are not alone in your journey. The Everything® Self-Esteem Book is written to help you gain a new perspective on your life, your actions, your thoughts, and your personal success.
This book is about reflection, personal and professional goals, growth, renewal, and results. It is not a book for simply browsing through or just flipping through page after page. This is a book to be used, dog-eared, marked in, talked about, and used over and over. This book is about you and your journey. This book is about work! Changing the way that you look at yourself is not an easy task, but it is possible — very possible.
Simply put, your search for healthier self-esteem is essential for your life. Yes, your life may depend on how well you think of yourself. Your self-esteem determines how well you treat yourself, how well you treat others, how you view the world, how you view yourself in the world, how you act in the world, and how you take care of your basic needs that are required for survival. The renowned psychologist Abraham Maslow identified a series of needs that exists in every living human being. Among those listed, in addition to your need for safety and love, are esteem needs. He suggested that until your basic needs of air, water, safety, love, and esteem, are met, you can't fulfill your needs for intellectual achievement, the appreciation of beauty, and self-actualization or fulfillment.
Many experts believe that moving toward healthier self-esteem requires two things: setting high, realistic goals, and acting in some fashion to have a degree of success in reaching those goals. This book gives you not only self-esteem theory and thought, but also a series of practical, useful exercises and thought-provoking suggestions to help you help yourself in reaching your goals of healthy self-esteem.
As you begin working toward healthier self-esteem, think of it as a daily goal. Choose some task each day that will help you more clearly see what you have to offer to yourself and the world. Once you have begun to realize the gifts that you possess, you can begin to concentrate on finding positive self-esteem through laughter, spiritual thought, exercise, risk taking, contemplation, positive visualization, forgiveness, creativity, and personal integrity.
This book is useless without your total commitment and unbridled passion for improving your self-esteem. You, and only you, have the power to change your life. Know, however, before you begin the journey, that the path to healthier self-esteem will not be completed instantaneously. Just as your self-esteem was not shaped overnight, it will not be reshaped overnight. Honesty, patience, work, and need are the tools required for this journey.
Before you begin reading the chapters in this book, take the Self-Esteem Assessment. This will give you a better understanding of your present thoughts and ideas about yourself before you begin.