Romantic Marriage Proposals
Proposals of marriage are among those moments that are frozen in time and in your mind. Almost everyone has a completely clear recollection of the event, even fifty years later. The lion's share of these moments are romantic just because of the issue involved. Some are spur-of-the-moment inspirations while others are carefully planned and orchestrated events. To be able to make a proposal as romantic as possible, there are a few things to consider.
Who Is Present?
Probably the majority of marriage proposals are made privately, one-on-one. These are more intimate and quiet. If you're going to take this route, here are a few ground rules that might help.
Be sure about what you want to say. Rehearse the words if you get easily tongue-tied.
Give flowers as part of the event. Some proposals include attaching the ring to a dozen roses.
Make certain there are no distractions. Get away from phones, pagers, and other devices that might spoil the moment.
Make a decision about a ring.
Have a handkerchief ready.
Of these ground rules, the ring requires some thought. For some, the idea of being able to pull out a box with an engagement ring is the crowning moment. Others may decide that the better course is to let the woman choose one she would like.
When you ask all alone, you also get to be answered in the same way. And you can choose the form of celebration that follows. Chances are, if the answer is yes, there is at least going to be some hugging and kissing going on. That's romantic, right?
You should also think about body position. Do you plan to kneel? Will you sit beside your partner or stand? Others make the proposal at dinner. For those who want a carefully choreographed proposal, these things need to be decided in advance.
Public proposals can be part of a party, a dinner (at home or in a restaurant), or some other special gathering. These kinds of proposals are tricky. The clearest problem occurs when he or she doesn't want the pressure of answering in front of a bunch of people. Before making a grand public marriage proposal, carefully answer the following key questions.
Is she as outgoing as I am, and will she enjoy sharing this with a bunch of folks?
Am I positive she will say yes?
How am I going to make sure the people I want to see this moment are present? Can they keep a secret?
What will I do if she runs out of the room screaming or crying?
When you choose the public arena to make the proposal, it's like throwing a party. There is a guest list to work out. You have to decide on details, such as how long the celebration will last, who to invite, and how you'll get everyone in the right place at the right time. An additional side note is the parent issue. Do you plan to have one set present? Both? Neither? If you invite one side and not the other, you may also be inviting an early engagement fight. If you invite neither, they may not be happy that you had this most exiting moment without including them. If you invite both, and one side isn't very excited about the prospect, some real tension can result. It's a sticky wicket no matter how you proceed.
There are also those more outlandish public proposals that take place in front of total strangers, including posting the proposal on a scoreboard at a sports event or using an airplane banner to proclaim your love. Such proposals are certainly dramatic and can be romantic if you think that type of presentation would appeal to your partner. If your partner is a private person, you might want to reconsider proposing in this way.