The lion's share of this book has focused on “doing positives”: how to use food, music, words, and deeds to improve your love relationships. To present a more complete picture, however, there should be a discussion about how to “eliminate negatives.” We call these negatives “romance busters.” A talented, creative, romantic person is just as tuned in to avoiding problems as he or she is to doing romantic things. Eliminating these romance busters goes beyond being a better husband, wife, or lover. Many of these tactics can help you become a better person. That's because the same things that damage romance also hurt friendships and family relationships.