Where Does Romance Fit into Your Life?

Music lovers regularly find ways to enjoy their passion throughout the day. They listen to the car radio or CD player on the drive to work or around town, at home on the stereo system, and on a portable player while they jog or walk. These deliberate efforts are designed to incorporate the music they love into their daily routine. Being romantic can work the same way. Take a look at this list, and consider the connection each entry has with romance:

  • Being with friends

  • Celebrating anniversaries

  • Celebrating birthdays

  • Dating

  • Eating

  • Falling in love

  • Flirting

  • Going on a honeymoon

  • Marrying early

  • Midlife

  • Old age

  • Practicing the art of seduction

For those who commit their minds and hearts to the goal of keeping the love light burning, a voyage through a romantic life begins early on and should never end. The journey might start as you watch your Mom and Dad smooch unabashedly or when you see love still shining in the eyes of your grandparents. Soon you're probably thinking, “Gee, I wish something like that would happen to me!”

Romance can be part of your entire life!

Before kids reach their teenage years, they've begun honing their romantic skills. Many girls experience their first romantic cravings as they read teen magazines and fantasize about a delicious kiss with the latest heartthrob. Boys usually start out with clumsy attempts at flirting and teasing, which soon evolve into something a little more sophisticated, such as note passing. Sure, early romance is often awkward and immature, but it is also exhilarating and a great training ground for what is to come.

Don't you wish you could recapture the fun and excitement that went along with those early crushes? The biggest bummer about innocence is that once you lose it, you can't get it back. Fortunately, what happens next is often grander. The dating years can be painful and filled with rejection, but they can also create some of our most powerful memories. Each new dating partner brings a unique kind of expectation, which is simultaneously tense, intriguing, and exciting. Think back to those days. Remember how you hoped to find your perfect match someday? Along the way, there were proms, movies, long walks and talks, and many other adventures. Teenage romance and the dating years usually add new depth to romantic feelings.

We're going to talk about youthful romance in some parts of this book, not only because some of our readers may be young, but also because it's part of the larger picture. We want those of you who are older to remember those times when romance was lighthearted and fun. Those feelings and activities can enrich your romantic life at all ages.

So, where does romance fit into your life? Everywhere, if you want it to!

Many people agree that the most romantic times in their lives took place (or will take place) during courtship and the early stages of marriage. Candlelit dinners, flowers, cards, notes, love letters, and lots of other romantic goodies seem to take place all the time when you're falling in love. You can't take your eyes off each other, and you ache when you're apart. For many people, it's one of the happiest times in their lives. Unfortunately, it is far too easy to fall into a rut in which passion cools and tender romantic moments occur less frequently. Life doesn't have to work that way!

If you are willing to try, and if you have the kind of partner who responds when you make a special gesture, you can use the upcoming pages to build or rekindle many tender, warm, romantic feelings. Of course, romance can never stay at the fever pitch it reaches during those early days. But good relationships deepen into something even better.

A Life of Love

Various studies done over the years comparing people in committed relationships with single people have yielded some interesting results:

  • Married people tend to live longer.

  • Married people tend to enjoy better health.

  • Married people are more likely to report that they have consistent, satisfying sex with the same partner.

  • Married people normally report that they are happier than single people.

  • More than half of the people involved in some kind of long-term romantic relationship say that their “best friend” is their partner.

  • Most divorced people remarry, which suggests that they are still looking for something associated with love and romance.

  • The majority of people who are involved in a long-term romance say that if they were stranded on a desert island with just one person, they would choose their spouse or lover as that person.

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