Most people join a group or organization with the best of intentions. They really want to be a part of things, to give of themselves, their talents, and, occasionally, their money. But sometimes, there just isn't enough time in the day for everything we want to do.

Maybe you've been asked to serve on a committee or as an officer and you just can't fulfill your obligations. Maybe the reason you joined the group or organization just isn't there anymore and you want to move on to other interests. Maybe — worst case scenario here — you've been charged with a breach of conduct. Now what?

Please Excuse Me

First, remember that if you are asked to perform a duty, you may decline it if it's not mandatory to belonging to your group or organization. If you're an officer, for example, the secretary, and you don't want to continue to take minutes (which is a mandatory duty for the secretary in your group or organization), then you should be asked to be excused from your office. Resigning is a choice if the group no longer is something you want to be a part of. If you've committed a breach of conduct or you just don't feel it's worth it to fight proceedings against you, then it's wise to resign.

How to Be Excused

If the duty is not mandatory, decline at the time it's offered; it's not necessary to ask the membership for permission. If you can't continue in an office, then you should submit your resignation in writing to the secretary. The resignation will be put to a vote and you can't discontinue performing your duties until the resignation is accepted (if there's an emergency situation, your group or organization may make other arrangements).

If you want to resign, some groups won't let you if your dues are outstanding. If you refuse or can't pay, you chance being expelled (which may have negative connotations you would prefer to avoid). Finally, if you have exhibited bad conduct and are charged with such, your group or organization may be happy to receive your resignation and accept it, although it has the option of refusing and may proceed with your trial.