Toddlers are sexual beings, and taboos around childhood sexuality remain strong. The past practice of admonishing toddlers that touching “down there” would land them an eternity in hell has largely disappeared to be replaced by the myth that only youngsters who have been sexually abused display a keen interest in sexual matters. Thus, instead of considering toddlers’ sexuality to be immoral, many view it as an indication of “sickness,” a symptom of post-traumatic stress. In truth, toddlers are sexual beings, though not in the adult sense. Parents may wonder about gender issues—how boys become boys and girls become girls, in their behavior and identity. What activities, toys, and family attitudes contribute to a child’s sense of femininity or masculinity?

