Technical Virginity
Most parents feel pretty clear about the definition of virginity. Teens have a completely different concept of the word.
Many teen boys define virginity purely as vaginal penetration with a penis. All other forms of sexual contact are fair play. This can include oral sex and anal sex.
Oral sex is an easy way to claim to be a technical virgin. In a 2005 study, just over half of the fifteen-to nineteen-year-olds had already experienced oral sex. One in four of the teens who had not had intercourse had oral sex.
Essential
Teaching your son about the joy and love that come along with the responsibility of sex is part of your job. Be sure he knows about the female anatomy and the art of female orgasm.
Some teens describe oral sex as being much less intimate than sexual intercourse. Oral sex was once considered much more intimate than sexual intercourse. Today's teens do not know what to think and therefore they need you to weigh in on the matter to help them make their own decisions.
One of the biggest problems with the whole issue of technical virginity is not who has the correct definition. The biggest concern is really that most teens do not understand the risks involved with sexual contact of any sort. The truth is that anal, oral, and vaginal sex or contact with any sex organs can lead to problems other than pregnancy.
Alert
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Many teen boys claim that if you avoid penile/vaginal sex then you can also avoid some of the hazards associated with this form of sexual contact. This is absolutely a false assumption. There are many risks involved with other forms of sexual contact.
It is important that your son know that any form of sexual contact can lead to sexually transmitted infections, also know as sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) or venereal diseases. Your son should know the common symptoms of sexually transmitted infections:
Pain during urination or sex
Discharge from the penis
Sores in the genital region, anus, or mouth
Swollen glands
General fatigue
Teach your son options for sexual outlet. Outercourse is the act of sexual rubbing with clothes, also known as dry humping. This is one way to release sexual tension with none of the physical risks related to sex.
