Your Girl Is Attracted to Other Girls
When you observe your daughter having crushes on other girls, realize this is a normal stage of her sexual development. Often girls begin in elementary school to idolize a pretty young female teacher, and then they admire an older girl from afar. Later they develop an extremely close relationship with one of their girlfriends and focus primarily on her. At age twelve or thirteen, some girls even start role-playing games with a group of curious girls where one is chosen to play the part of the boy, and the other girls practice their kissing skills on “him.” They may take turns being the pretend-male, or they may ask for volunteers.
Essential
Many girls start to experiment with same-sex relationships and bisexuality as they grow up. This is a normal passing phase for them. Only time will indicate your daughter's true sexuality. No matter what you may think, you cannot choose it for her as you would her prom dress. And even with a prom dress, you can only make suggestions.
Growing up, your daughter can take a circuitous path. So be ready for most anything and enjoy watching your girl make the journey from her early to her late teens. Let her be herself as she unfolds and accept whatever sexual orientation it turns out she develops. No matter how strong the beliefs of some groups, research tells us that girls neither choose to be homosexual nor heterosexual. They are what they are. In fact, according to the experts, about 5 percent of all teenage girls consider themselves to be gay or lesbian. What if your girl comes to you and tells you she thinks she belongs to that group?
Brave Girl
Give your daughter a big hug and tell her you are proud of her should she reveal she is gay. It takes courage for a girl to be honest about her sexual preference to her parents while still in high school. But also hug yourself — in spirit. You are to be commended for having done such a good job as a parent that your daughter can come to you. Tell her she was created as an answer to your prayers, and you are so very, very proud of her — just the way she is.
Feel very special because you have been chosen to have a daughter who is extraordinary. Any mom and dad can raise a girl who only presents average challenges. You were chosen to have a girl who presents above-average challenges. This gives you even more chances to expand your parenting skills and to surpass what you have done so far.
