Breastfeeding doesn't come naturally to everyone. Ingrained feelings of self-consciousness about your body, of modesty, and of discomfort with the process can inhibit your natural inclination to nurse. When efforts don't go according to plan and the nursing relationship isn't thriving, feelings of inadequacy are common. Seeking assistance, either through coaching or supplemental nutrition, is not a sign of failure but rather of dedication to your child. Breastfeeding in any amount is something to take tremendous pride in.

Breasts: From Form to Function

Where is the right setting to nurse? Wherever your baby is hungry. As long as breastfeeding is done as discretely as circumstances warrant, any place that's appropriate to take a baby is the right spot.

The prospect of nursing in public might be worrying you. When the time comes, don't think about your exposure, think only of filling your child's stomach. A baby who's really singing for his supper will probably not give you the time to be modest about it, anyway.

Specially designed nursing blankets can improve your cover if you're really self-conscious, although a receiving blanket over the shoulder works as well. If you do use a nursing blanket, make sure it's comfortable and not too hot for baby.

Support from Family and Friends

Breastfeeding doesn't always come naturally and immediately, particularly for first-time moms. Having the support of your friends and family is really important in making it through those first few uncertain and sometimes rocky weeks. Comments like, “Why don't you just give her a bottle?”will do nothing but erode your confidence and stress you out. Get your partner's help in deflecting the negativity and justifying your reasons for breastfeeding, and if the bad attitudes continue, just avoid the offender. You don't need it.

A La Leche League group can also be a steadfast source of support and inspiration and, more important, offer guidance for your breastfeeding difficulties. (Call 1-800-LALECHE for a group in your area or see Appendix B for further contact information.)