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Parenting Disagreements

From time to time you and your partner are bound to have disagreements about parenting, whether it's a feeding, disciplining, or even diapering issue. Moms sometimes feel entitled to make all the decisions — after all, she's the one who went through pregnancy and birth! — and may also feel more emotionally invested in whether a baby is fed, changed, or put to bed in a certain way. Dads may not be sure where they fit in when it comes to decision-making and may become resentful if it feels like his opinions don't matter.

You're never going to agree on everything, but it's important that you communicate, compromise, and when possible, be consistent in your approach. As your baby grows, he'll quickly learn whether Mom and Dad are on the same team, or whether he can play them against one another to get what he wants. It's crucial that you work out how to come to parenting decisions together early on so that you can present a unified front.

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When you and your partner discuss parenting disagreements, keep his personality in mind. Does he respond best to anecdotal evidence or scientific research? Just because he doesn't agree at first doesn't mean he won't be receptive to an idea if you present it in a way that speaks to him.

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