Finding the Time — and Place — for Romance
Now that there is this new baby in your life — and possibly right there in your bedroom with you — you're probably finding it more difficult to create a romantic atmosphere with your partner. This isn't necessarily a bad thing, though. You may just have to get creative when it comes to the time and place for sex.
Plan for Spontaneity
As your baby gets older, he'll begin sleeping for longer stretches at night and taking more regular naps, so you can plan for romantic interludes. But in the early months, your sex life may be catch-as-catch-can. Rethink the idea that there's a “right” time or place for sex, and take this opportunity to be spontaneous and a bit wild. A quickie in the bathroom or walk-in closet can be a fun adventure that you can fit in while your baby is sleeping.
Question
Will my baby be traumatized if she wakes up while my husband and I are having sex?
It can be a mood killer to look over during sex and realize that your baby is awake and watching you, but she has no concept of what you're doing. Don't worry — you won't cause her emotional damage.
Employ a Sitter
Ask a grandparent, godparent, aunt, or uncle if he or she would like to take your baby on an errand, and use that time for a quick romp. When your baby is big enough and you're comfortable being away from her for a few hours, you can plan for a romantic date night complete with dinner
Keep It Light
You can also try re-creating a romantic date at home after your baby's gone to bed. Just remember that seduction and sex aren't going to go perfectly every time. Sometimes, the baby will wake up crying, which can lead to laughter or frustration. You'll have to decide whether to keep going with crying or cooing in the background — not always the best way to keep the mood going — or try again later. Knowing ahead of time that you may be interrupted can help keep you from setting your expectations too high and ending up frustrated.
