Frustrations, worries, disappointments, and loneliness send people searching for someone to listen, as do the good things like accomplishments, good reports, and fun plans. Any parent of a two-year-old can tell you that she needs to talk about something other than puppies, dolls, and more juice.

Any parent of a child who is struggling just to catch up with his peers needs to talk. It is important to have people to talk with in good times, bad times, and those everyday times when you just need to talk to another adult. Establish a network of trustworthy, compassionate people to talk with.

Family and Friends

Your family and friends may have been your sounding boards before your child was born. No doubt they still care and should be included in your group of people who will listen. Consider their advice, but remember that they are not walking in your shoes.

Other Parents

Sometimes you will need to talk to parents who are going through similar situations with their children. You may find parents in your child's school program or meet others in doctor or therapy waiting rooms. Your community may have social activities for children with special needs where you will meet even more parents.

Support Groups

Some community agencies, schools, and hospitals have parent support groups. Often support groups are led by other parents or counselors trained in working with children with special needs.

Don't forget to check for sibling groups as well. Having a sibling with special needs presents additional questions and concerns for a child. Some may be very protective of their sibling. Others may be jealous of Mom and Dad's time. Still others may be unsure what to say when talking to their peers.

Professionals

In addition to listening, professionals can offer ideas and information on available resources. Talking to a professional who works with your child can be especially helpful because that person knows your child, his history, and what does and does not work with him. Your conversations with your child's teacher, counselor, therapist, or doctor will be confidential.