The quality of your child's life does not depend on the nature of her disability or what she can and cannot do. The quality of her life will largely depend on her attitude (and yours) toward struggles and choices that come her way.

Relationships

Some people will be helpful, and some will be too helpful. Teach your child that not all people have the same approach to someone with special needs. Help her develop friendships where others see her as a person first, not a “disabled person.” Help her to seek and develop the friendships that encourage, support, and challenge her to reach her potential.

Recreation and Hobbies

Help your child explore recreation and hobbies that are relaxing and enjoyable. Find some things that you can enjoy together to strengthen your parent-child bond. Allow her to add activities based on her own interests. Expect that your child will have unique ideas to explore and enjoy.

Independence

A child with special needs is dependent on others for so many things. She may need physical assistance. For some children, everyday tasks like homework and household chores may require redirection and supervision. Seek the ways that your child can be independent.

If her homework requires that she write spelling words and complete math story problems, for example, decide what she can do independently. Chances are she can write the spelling words without someone sitting with her. Use that opportunity to start supper or read to another child. Expect that she will do some things independently, and offer praise when she does.

Self-Worth

Quality of life largely depends on a child's perception of herself, her circumstances, her struggles, and her accomplishments. No one is supposed to be good at everything. Everyone is good at some things. Expect that your child will develop a healthy self-concept. Lead the way with your own realistic encouragement and acceptance.