The Parent's Role at School
While you do not want to be the parent from whom the teachers run at the first sight of you, or the one who is going to be a troublemaker, you also need to make it clear that you plan to be a presence in your child's academic life. This means that they can expect you to ask questions, share information, and voice your concerns with them.
Communicate by Phone
Communicating with your child's school can be done in several ways. As stated earlier, having just one person to communicate with is appropriate and easy. If this is the route you choose, find out when this teacher is most often available and contact her then. Do not make repeated phone calls during the day every time you think of something you want to say. Keep a list of questions and concerns and have them ready for when you're able to talk with her.
Notes
Another way to communicate with your child's school is by sending a short note. Some teachers prefer this method because they can address your questions and needs when it is convenient for them. Keep the note short, to the point, and make it specific enough so that the teacher is somewhat forced to address it.
E-mail is a convenient way to communicate with your child's teacher. Many teachers make available their e-mail addresses at the beginning of the year as a means for you to contact them. Take advantage of this, but don't abuse it. However, it is a great way to share information about your child's depression as well as articles or books that you think they might find helpful.
Alert!
If a teacher or school professional tells you that he has everything under control and does not need your help, ask yourself if this was said because you are being a bother or for some other reason. It may also be a sign that this teacher doesn't plan to address your child's needs any differently from the other students!
Volunteer
If your child's class needs a room mother, or a parent to head a charity project, volunteer to help. This is an excellent way to get to know your child's teachers as well as to observe your child in their presence. And though it might sound sneaky, it's a great way to catch a minute of the teacher's time!
Don't be afraid to ask your teacher or other school official how you can be the most helpful to the school regarding your child's depression. Often, they will welcome your support and involvement and may have creative ways to use you that no one has thought about.
