The next piece of applying parental discipline is consistency—responding to rules that have been broken or deliberately violated the same way every time. Applying the rules and consequences consistently, especially during level or lucid periods of time, may make it a little easier to redirect the child who is escalating during times of anxiety, anger, irritability, agitation, or grandiosity. Remain firm and direct, even if your child is screaming, “I don't care!” and ripping the rules off the cupboard door. When this occurs, be consistent not only in applying the rules but also in your tone of voice and stance:

• Use as few words as possible and speak in a low, even and unemotional voice. Clearly state the rule that has been broken (perhaps visually direct your child's attention to it).

• Explain very simply why the consequence is being applied.

• Repeat the exact same phrases over again if necessary.

• Don't embellish or confuse things by talking too much.

• Don't get caught up in arguing or debating; stay firm.

• Visually point out the time-out area or gently, safely, and quietly offer to physically lead your child there by the hand or arm.

• Do all of this as calmly and matter-of-factly as possible.

Your very young child may be extremely challenging to manage and comfort at the same time during a meltdown. Your teen may become unmanageable or unreachable as he grows in size and strength. Implementing the foundation of fair parental discipline as early in your child's life as possible may serve to alleviate some future difficulties.