Correcting Inappropriate Social Behavior
When you observe your youngster making a social blunder, such as being rude, bossy, selfish, or inconsiderate, be careful about how you intervene. Embarrassing your child in front of her peers almost always does more harm than good. That goes for first graders as well as for teens.
The Importance of Keeping It Private
To teach your child to be considerate and respectful of peers, you need to demonstrate appropriate behavior. Call your youngster aside and speak with her privately if you need to make a correction. That is what your youngster needs to do if she is upset with someone. If she criticizes another child in front of a group, she is likely to find herself being shunned or challenged to fight the person she humiliated.
Teaching Without Preaching
Your child will be more willing to heed your advice about social matters if you have a close relationship and if she believes that you understand the social dilemmas she is facing.
An excellent way to achieve a closer relationship and demonstrate that you understand what your child is up against is to share stories from your past. Sharing how you felt about being teased when you were growing up lets your child know that you empathize and have grappled with similar problems.
Telling what you did to try to win friends and influence enemies can give your youngster ideas about new things to try and mistakes to avoid while helping her to consider her situation more objectively. Recounting personal stories is especially effective with adolescents.