Fellatio

Giving “head” or a “blow job” to a man can be quite fun. The clinical term for oral sex on a man is derived from the Latin word fellatio, meaning “to suck.” Whatever you call it, the sensation of a warm and wet mouth wrapped around a man's penis is a unique and erotic experience like no other. The mouth can create so many different sensations that some men prefer oral stimulation of the penis to any other kind. To the giver of fellatio, the penis offers itself as a fascinating toy. When you play with it right, you make its owner squirm with pleasure.

Starting Off

When performing fellatio on your male lover, it is important to find a position that you can both comfortably stay in for a while. When you take care of your own body's comfort, you are better able to provide for your partner. As you go along, you may want to shift positions from time to time to avoid any discomfort for either of you. Try sitting comfortably between his legs or at his side as he lies face up before you. Alternatively, lie down on your side with the side of your head resting on his pelvis. Or consider kneeling or squatting in front of him as he sits or stands. One of the benefits of performing fellatio is that you really don't need a bed for it. You can do it just about anywhere!

Fact

The ancient Roman emperor Gallienus called fellatio lesbiari, because it was women from the island of Lesbos who were believed to have been the first to practice oral pleasure. In ancient Greece, fellatio was referred to as “playing the flute,” and in the Kama Sutra, it is referred to as “mouth congress.”

Tips and Techniques

When performing fellatio, there are many tips and techniques to keep in mind. Most importantly, have fun and enjoy the eroticism yourself. Imagine how good it would feel to have your lover inside of other parts of you with that erect penis of his. Enjoy how he surrenders to the pleasure and how turned on he is getting. Know that you are responsible. You can also begin anticipating the pleasures he may give you in return.

Use Your Hands

Your hands are valuable assistants during fellatio. You might even start off by stimulating his penis with your hands, adding your mouth later. You may want to use a hand on his penis the whole time. Your hands can help guide his penis where you want it to go, giving you more control than using just your mouth. Hand squeezes can also help give him the feeling of more engulfment, especially when they provide pressure at the base of his penis. Hand strokes can also keep up the stimulation whenever you need to give your jaw a break. They offer a way to add variety to the sensations you provide.

Licking the Whole Shaft and Head

Try licking the whole shaft and head of his penis as if it were a popsicle. Lick the head of his penis like it is the tastiest part. Use your whole tongue and go slow. Savor every lick. This will make his penis feel very loved and appreciated and help build the anticipation for your whole mouth to be on him.

Alert

Be careful with your teeth! The scariest thing for a man receiving fellatio is the threat of teeth accidentally clenching down on his delicate member. It is crucial that you find a way to keep your teeth clear of his penis. If you can demonstrate that you have this awareness, he will be able to surrender more to the pleasure.

Using Your Whole Mouth

There is nothing quite like the sensation of a wet, soft, and silky mouth sensually gliding up and down over a man's penis. Alternate between engulfing just the head for a while and then as much of the shaft as you can manage. It feels really good if you can engulf his whole penis with your mouth. Use your tongue in fun and creative ways to increase the sensations. You can also use one hand at the base of his penis while your mouth covers the rest to give him the sensation of total engulfment.

Deep Throating

If you are really adventurous, you can try deep throating, which refers to taking his penis all the way into your throat. Some men really like this. Deep throating requires that you relax the muscles in your throat and get past your gag reflex. It will help to relax and open up your throat if you can tilt your head back, so try this lying on your side, or with your head over the edge of the bed. You may want to practice on a dildo for starters.

Giving His Testicles Some Attention

Your male lover might like having his testicles stimulated during oral pleasure to his penis. You can try gently sucking on his testicles, or use a hand to lightly cup or stroke his testicles while your mouth is stimulating the head and shaft of his penis. It's a good idea to check in with him about the pressure on his testicles, since they can be very sensitive.

Stimulate His Other Erogenous Zones with Your Hands

When you have a free hand, use it to stimulate other erogenous zones on his body, such as his anus or perineum, his nipples, and his mouth and lips. Just make sure the additional stimulation is not distracting you or him from what you are doing with your mouth. It should contribute to the experience, not take away from it.

Essential

It is a good idea to plan ahead if you are going to be simulating your lover's P-spot. He should use the bathroom first to vacate his bladder and bowels. You should wash your hands and make sure there are no jagged edges on your nails. Also, you should have latex or vinyl gloves and lots of lubrication handy.

Stimulating the P-Spot

Men can get a lot of pleasure from the stimulation of their prostate gland or P-spot. As with a woman's G-spot, prostate stimulation can add greatly to a man's orgasmic experience when stimulated at just the right time. It usually feels best when he is already very turned on and close to orgasm. In order to access the P-spot, you will need to insert a finger, palm side up, about an inch into his anus. Make sure you use plenty of lube and that he is relaxed and ready. Once inside his anus, press your finger toward his navel. You are aiming to feel a round bulb of spongy tissue. When you find it, stroke the area with a come-hither motion and explore other ways to stimulate this area, checking in with him to see what he prefers.

Tease Him

Rather than bringing your lover to orgasm as fast as you can, why not tease him a bit? Bring him right up to the edge and then back off so that you can prolong the experience for him. This can help him build up more of a charge, potentially leading to a more powerful orgasm. You can do this in any of three ways. Try stopping the stimulation altogether, changing the stimulation, or slowing the stimulation down. Then, once his arousal has dipped a little, start up again. Try increasing the pace or finding a new rhythm.

Taking Him All the Way There

When you are ready to bring your lover to orgasm, keep your rhythm steady and constant. Pick up the pace and increase the pressure a little bit—or a lot, if he asks for that. Keep going until he comes. Decide ahead of time how you want to handle his semen as it ejaculates. If you do not want to get cum in your mouth, you can pull your mouth away and finish him off with your hand. Just make sure you do this in time. If you are using a condom, you won't have to worry about this.

If you let your lover come inside of your mouth, you have the choice of either swallowing his cum or spitting it out. It is certainly not harmful to swallow cum, but not everybody is comfortable doing that, for a variety of reasons. Your lover may really like it if you are willing to swallow his cum. It may help him feel more fully accepted. Many people find that they like the taste of cum and find it very satisfying to swallow. But don't feel bad if that is not your thing. If you need to, find a way to spit it out that won't make a big production of it.

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