Erotic Touch

Erotic touch is any kind of touch that results in sexual arousal. Both men and women respond to erotic touch, but what turns each person on varies. You will have to explore different kinds of touch to see what works for your lover. You can always ask her how she likes to be touched or suggest ways that you would like to touch her and see how she responds. Learning how to skillfully touch your lover in a way that makes her sexually aroused or increases her arousal is a key to being a good lover.

Caressing

Caressing expresses tenderness and creates a sense of intimacy and safety. Light, gentle stokes of your hand on your partner's body can encourage relaxation and surrender. It can also potentially lead to arousal, given the right circumstances.

There are numerous ways to caress and many parts of the body that like to be caressed. You can use just your fingertips, your whole hand, or the back of your hand. It is nice to combine all of these for variety. Generally, caressing feels best when done with a relaxed hand at a slow pace. Start by caressing the face and neck, the upper chest, shoulders and arms, the back, particularly the small of the back, and possibly the belly. Then, extend your caresses to your partner's erogenous zones and start building the heat.

Alert

If you have very rough hands, it may not feel good to your lover to use your fingertips or the palm of your hand for caressing. You can try the back of your hand or use a feather, a feather duster, or a fuzzy mitten. The soft touch of these can feel divine.

Pinching and Grabbing

Pinching and grabbing involve using your fingers or your whole hand to grab onto and squeeze a fleshy part of your partner's body. It expresses passion and desire and can be very effective at helping to build sexual tension. Not everyone likes pinching and grabbing, and it is only appropriate at certain times. It is usually best when there is already a fair amount of arousal built up, or if you are both in a playful mood.

The buttocks, nipples, clitoris, and labia (gently) are particularly responsive to pinching. The erect penis, the arms, the hips, the buttocks, and the breasts are generally responsive to grabbing. As with everything you do with your lover, and especially with rougher erotic behaviors, it is a good idea to check in about the desired quality and quantity.

Teasing

Teasing touch is another way to create a feeling of yearning and desire. Good teasing is all about finding desire's edge and dancing back and forth across it. There's an art to building the fire in someone, letting it cool a little, and building it again and again and again. It slowly raises the passion to a new plateau.

Teasing may involve touching a little bit and then withdrawing completely or varying the kind of touch or the place you touch. For some people teasing the genitals is a very effective way to build up arousal. This can be done by touching all around the genitals but not on them directly. Another way is to lightly stimulate the genitals at irregular intervals. It can be fun to see how much teasing you can take and how much arousal you can build up with teasing alone.

Spanking

Spanking can be either light patting or hard smacking on the buttocks. There seems to be a bit of a spanking craze right now. More and more people are getting into this naughty delight. If you have never tried it but think it might work for you, there is no time like the present. Spanking can be done on a clothed or a bare bottom. You can be standing, bending over, or lying down. The skin on the behind is very sensitive and because of the proximity to the genitals, it is particularly erotic. Tension can start to build in the buttocks and the whole pelvic region with the anticipation of each slap. It can be especially effective at building arousal when combined with a fantasy or role-play.

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