No matter how many events you have pulled off in your life, there is nothing like planning a wedding with your daughter. If you read any part of this book, these next few paragraphs are key to keeping you and your daughter sane. Just like any relationship, communication is the key to an easier wedding planning process.

Phone, E-Mail and Chat

If you and your daughter are planning the wedding together, you must decide on how you will communicate with one another. Details and decisions will be crucial, and communicating these items will help to stop extra work. If you don't have an e-mail address, get one. If you don't get on the Internet that much, start! Brides today are doing most of their planning and information gathering online. You can talk on the phone, but be ready for a barrage of e-mails detailing photos of the dress, shoes, flowers, linens, and so on to be the backup for the conversations you are having on the phone. In addition to phone and e-mail discussions, you may want to consider online chats and web conferencing if you and your daughter live far apart from each other. Free online chat services are available and all you need is a computer that has camera capability.

Keep on the Subject

No matter how wonderful your relationship is with your daughter, try to keep wedding conversations about the wedding. It is easy to bring in emotional sidebars about uncomfortable situations, since weddings tend to bring out both the emotional best and worst in people. Miscommunication about what the bride wants and what you want can easily be avoided if you simply carve out a specific time to talk about the wedding on a weekly basis. Whatever is not discussed during these specific times can be fleshed out in e-mail! Don't let the wedding get in the way of regular mother-daughter conversations.