Pillow Talk: Signs in the Bedroom

The key to keeping a sex life spiced up with the Ram includes providing satisfaction in every way but always keeping a little enticement waiting. If you bore Aries, in or out of the bedroom, the skid marks she's left won't be the only sign she's not coming back. Try telling her you have a secret sexual maneuver that you'll just have to show her later. She'll do her best to get you back into bed. And remember, Aries likes to at least think she's in control at all times, even in the most intimate and compromising of positions.

The Secret Aries Man

What to do with a male Ram? You've got your work cut out for you. Aries men mostly prefer rough and tough over slow and sultry — they just don't have the patience. But they can hold out. So, if you're the type who likes a man to take charge and dominate you in bed, here's your guy.

He may be interested in knowing what makes you tick and what you like. Tell him, but do it with grace. You can compliment him first on what a fabulous lover he is, then suggest or hint at things you like, letting him believe that it was really his idea in the first place. Aries will take your cue and excel at whatever task you place in front of him. In fact, he'll love the idea of any good challenge.

The Aries Lover

Unfortunately, the typical Aries man can be egocentric in bed, too. But that's okay. There's one way to remedy this: Put an end to it immediately. In other words, don't wait a year to let this problem slip out in a verbal fight. (Aries will be devastated by the mere hint that he's been doing something wrong in the sack — though at the same time he probably won't believe it.)The truth is, Aries man may be more wrapped up in his own needs, but he'll be more than happy to meet yours, too. He just has to understand what those requirements are, and that means you have to clue him in. He's not a bad lover. It's more that, at times, he's an oblivious one.


Strangely enough, Aries man will be up front about what he doesn't like … but he doesn't want you to be! Aries is sensitive; he has thin skin. If you reprimand him, do it gently.

Bedroom Play

When it comes to bedroom play, Aries likes to try everything once. If he hints or talks outright about trying a little ménage-a-trois, chances are he plans on doing it anyway, with or without you. Aries men take their own words seriously. He might tell you it's getting late, and you'd better get home now or he'll be too tired to make love. If he says it, it's a sure bet he means it. He won't go back on his word. Aries men should be believed when they say something, in bed or otherwise. Heed the warning, and adjust accordingly. Are you ready for the male Ram?

The Secret Aries Woman

Like her male counterpart, the female Ram loves to get attention but needs a good challenge. Compliment her excessively and you're making a mistake. She'll like you and enjoy your company, but she'll never go to bed with you. Don't be her personal throw rug. She'll walk all over you and leave you out to dry. She wants a strong man — one who will stand up to her but who will allow her to take the lead.

Note that there's a difference here between allowing her to and letting her do what she wants. An Aries woman will know when you're controlling her. If you're “allowing” her, she'll respect you more and believe you've got power. If you're “letting” her get away with things, she'll push the envelope further, thinking you're too weak to keep her. Then she'll go looking for another man worthy of her affections.


Even though you should never go overboard with an Aries woman, if she's lacking the attention and ego-soothing words she expects from you, she will look elsewhere. Keep on your toes to please a Ram. Balance is the key, always leaving a little secrecy at the end.

Bedroom Escapades

Here's the rub. Like other Fire signs, Aries will expect her man to be superhuman in the bedroom. Outside, she wants to be the dominant force. In bed, though, she wants her man to take the lead. Though she believes herself to be in total control at all times, she surreptitiously wishes for an experience that will make the earth shake, causing her to lose it.

Like the Aries man, an Aries woman is a little wild and is curious enough to try out all new sexual adventures, positions, and exploits. A soft, slow, sweet lovemaking session will only irk an Aries woman — she'll be left with something similar to a metaphorical itch. She'll want to scratch it. And that, of course, will leave you in the dust.

Keeping the Excitement

She'll look for a man who's not googly-eyed over her. An Aries woman wants to respect and look up to you as a real he-man. In fact, telling an Aries woman that you love her (too soon) is a sure way to get her out the door. Chances are, she won't be back. This woman is all burning passion and fire, and she needs the same in a sexual mate. The key here is to always keep things exciting. One thing is for sure: She'll do the same for you.

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