How to Tell People You Have Breast Cancer
In general, there is no right or wrong way to tell people you have breast cancer. Some tips have been identified by experts that can help women who are trying to decide when and how to share the news:
Take your time. You do not need to tell everyone today or even tomorrow. You may want to wait and plan what you will say when you share the news; just make sure that you feel comfortable when you decide to do so.
Practice what you are going to say.
Write down what you want to say.
Seek out other breast cancer survivors to talk to, and get their advice.
Take someone with you to help tell your loved ones, if appropriate.
Be prepared to let them know how they can help, and identify a list of ways they can support you.
Do less caring for others and more for yourself.
Tell others when you are ready.
Focus on getting support and not giving it.
Consult your physician for more information on how to share the news of your breast cancer diagnosis. Perhaps a joint visit with your doctor will help facilitate the conversation.
People's first reaction is to ask if they can help in any way, so being prepared for this will help you give them some ideas. You know your friends' and family's strengths and what they are capable of giving. Take inventory and, most importantly, let them help you.
In Her Own Words
My sister was diagnosed with breast cancer seventeen years ago. She was thirty-nine years old, my baby sister. I was scared and shocked when she told me. As she shared with me what the doctor told her and how she felt, I knew I needed to be strong and optimistic for her. She is now a survivor and a good friend. I love her.
— Connie, age 73, sister of breast cancer survivor
